The battle of the dodee. Do they stay or do they go?

We had a visitor to our house on New year’s day. He was expected by the twins but they were not too happy to hear that he had indeed arrived and fulfilled his exchange. The exchange was they give up their dodees ( soothers ) after he (Santa) had left them big bicycles as an extra special Christmas surprise. Mammy and Daddy had also treated them to an extra special present for being such big boys and girls and giving their dodees back to Santa,so the little babies could have them.

How hard could it be?

Let’s just say I don’t call my blog Dodeestodaquiris for any old reason!

It all started out from the days they were born , at a day over thirty five weeks gestation and on the advice of the NICU team, we gave them their first dodees. Now studies have shown that they are proven to reduce the risk of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) and after a high risk pregnancy ,those little pieces of rubber were hastily bought if they could help in any way to leave our little ones at less of a risk. Sadly SIDS does still occur with children using aids, but it was some form of peace of mind for us.

Fast forward to four months of age and the dodee war cry rang out nightly in our home. Every night was the same, two babies crying, desperately searching for the fallen dodee. Many’s a night was spent up and down like yoyos putting them back in little mouths.  Online forums were searched, friends were engaged in late night conversations.

Do we go cold turkey now? But they are great for soothing and settling.  

If you don’t do it now you will have a battle on your hands when they’re older ( hmm ok maybe they did have a point after all ). 

It’s cruel to take it off them when they’re so young.

Our decision? We decided to go out and purchase a bucket load of them and put at least four into both cots on a nightly basis. Within a night or two order was restored, night wakings still occurred but the twins became experts at finding them themselves.

And so the early years trundled on , attachments were formed. The age of one was passed and the odd comment that we were now in trouble,that they’d never take them out of their mouths was passed, but to be honest for us we didn’t mind. Speech was not affected, in fact they were both flying it, teeth came in normally and didn’t buck out, and they were such a great comfort when the kids were sick or in the car. What harm were they, they were hardly going to go to secondary school with them!

Eventually as the twins got older we started to casually chat about babies and dodees and  walks through fairy woods saw lots of dodees hung from trees by other children. We started to plant the seeds around the time of their third birthday during the Summer that the time might be coming to give them away. We had already successfully cut them to bedtime and car journeys also but then sickness entered the house and a few other things arose which meant dodees started to sneak back into the day and for longer periods of time.

Long story short, starting pre-school afforded us the opportunity to be dodee free. Seeing the baby rooms and the older kids with and without dodees helped the twins Easy peasy we thought, let’s float the idea of asking Santa for a special swap. An extra special surprise in exchange for them.

All was fine, perhaps too fine! until after a weeks grace from Santa( Mammy and Daddy did not want Christmas week to be filled with tears and tantrums from missing dodees, we wanted to make do with chest infections and snotty noses instead!) on New Year’s day,  reality struck the twins and their little faces turned down, the lips quivered and eyes pooled with tears threatening to flood the sitting room. The dodees that they had left under the Christmas tree were gone. I stopped the word count after “dodee” was sobbed one thousand times by both kids.

I felt like the cruelest mother in the world, how could we take away their little comfort. Discussions with the other half , friends and on social media brought Santa back with a special pact. Dodees would return short-term, only at night-time and if they left the bedroom they would poof away in magic dust.

So far Santa’s compromise is working, now we just need to compose ourselves for the day when he returns to close out on his deal…..

 

 

 

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  1. Sounds like a tough decision on everyone! My eldest wasn’t fussed on his dodee. He was sick one weekend and didn’t take it so I took it away (he was about 6 months and not that bothered about it) and he never missed it. The next baby (17 months) uses me as his dummy and I’m MAJORLY failing at taking it away! I’m feeling like it’s easier to give in and let them have their comforts than deal with the fall out from taking it away.
    I’m hoping he’ll give up his comfort soon maybe the twins will too.
    xx

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  2. We’ve been mixed with all four. Our eldest was the latest (to date), we got him off it just before pre-school (he was over three and a half, the next stopped his just as he hit two, just stopped cold turkey and never went back. Our third never had one and my god there were times we tried to get him ON to one, because like oyu said, it’s there to sooth and nothing had that effect on him. Now with our little man just gone three we have on and off days, but he’s never gone a night without it. We nearly had one night fully without it but then when he woke having nightmares we handed it over to him (he wasn’t asking for it, we just knew he would fall asleep straight away and felt bad for testing him.) Like you, I think we’ll get there, it’s just a bit of a slow slog to get there! Good luck with it all!

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  3. Have to admit we were agin them and neither of ours had them. But I can so understand why you started. The only thing I can compare this with is getting our second, a boy, off the breast. He still is a very strong-willed boy and we went cold turkey on the breast with just me sleeping with him. Horrendous! But we got there. These things just have to be done and for good reasons. Hang in there. It sounds like you have handled it all very well

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  4. Love this – my baba is going to be 3 at the end of the month, I’m dropping the “dodee dump” hint into many conversations, but he’s adept at totally ignoring me! We’ll all get there eventually (I say as he lies beside me in the bed with no less than 3 dodees!!!)

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